Love and Equality #SameSexMarriage

Sometimes, I think it is absolutely necessary to stand up and speak your mind. It is important to have a voice and I’m lucky enough to have been born and live in a place where freedom of speech is legal. If some of you didn’t know, then I’m from England, or perhaps more often known in some parts of the world as the UK. I’m going to start off this piece by sharing a tweet from a writer friend of mine. You can visit Jack Croxall’s website here.


It was from this tweet that I suddenly came up with the idea to write this post. As a writer/author/blogger, I forget sometimes that I can actually have an influence on the people that visit my website as well as read my books. And it is because of this influence that also compelled me to write this post.

Many countries are currently going through Same-Sex marriage debates, namely America, Australia and the UK. The other day, it officially became legal in the UK for same-sex couples to marry. Now this has caused some disgraceful and distasteful arguments in magazines, blog posts and during television interviews. I have to say that I find this sort of vocal exercise just awful.

Why shouldn’t same-sex couples be allowed to sanctify and add meaning to their relationship by marrying? I’m a very liberal person and I’m all for equality, whether than means sexuality, race, religious involvement etc, as long as it doesn’t harm anybody else. In today’s world, we are just so mean to other people, and can we honestly stand in front of the mirror and admit that we are perfect ourselves? Who are we to stand in the way of two people loving each other and expressing that love with the oldest of traditions?

Now, of course you are going to get people who disagree with me. And you know what, that is their entitlement. But please don’t hurt others with your views. If you are against same-sex marriages, I would really like it if you could watch this video. I was shown this by another writer friend of mine Holly MartinAs Holly pointed out, this short video from the Australian parliament sums up the whole debate in my eyes.

Caseworker's Front Re-IssueAs a writer, I also feel like it is my responsibility to show both sides of the argument, or at least give a vivid picture of what could happen if people disagree. In my adult novel The Caseworker’s Memoirs, there is a story inside of where the seemingly perfect man, ends up by the end of the story being the baddie. Homophobia is sometimes ingrained within people, often through their upbringing, and I use this as a base for Chapter 9: Mark’s Last Christmas. Now I know this sounds like a rather cheeky plug for one of my books, but if this is a subject that interests you, then please check out my book. This particular chapter shows the extreme consequences of a person who isn’t open to the idea of same-sex relationships. Mark isn’t the person everyone believes him to be and I had to dig deep to get into the mindset of Mark and show why he reacts and does what he does.

The Caseworker’s Memoirs is available in both ebook and paperback, starting from just 77p/$1.28

All I ask, is that you go away and ask yourself why you feel so uncomfortable about this rather raw subject? That’s if you do. If you are all for same-sex marriages, then I give you permission to give yourself a congratulatory slap on the back. Only through teaching our children about acceptance and equality can the next generation lose the hate. #SameSexmarriage There is no ‘Gay Marriage’ just ‘Marriage’.

Last year, after I had already written The Caseworker’s Memoirs, I thought to myself: ‘Have I actually read a book where the main character is gay?’ And I had to admit to myself that I hadn’t. Now, this wasn’t through choice, just that the market is incredibly limited. There is quite a lot of erotica out there, but that’s not my thing. Not because it is same-sex erotica, I just don’t normally read erotica as a genre itself.

I think it takes a brave author to be different and write a novel that fits in Voyage Embarkation coverwith this line of thinking. And recently, in my opinion, one such brave author is Zachary Bonelli. I read and reviewed his debut Voyage: Embarkation last year and Kal, his protagonist, is in fact homosexual. It’s a young adult novel with tons of science fiction as well as elements of fantasy and it is incredibly successful.

Voyage Embarkation is the first novel I’ve read that features it central character being gay. It isn’t something you pick up on at first, but the little clues dotted among the pages do make you think. I do think this is a great part to the story, and why shouldn’t great book have gay protagonists? Zachary Bonelli writes with such conviction and confidence in kal, that only adds to his endearment.

Have you read any books lately with gay protagonists? If not, ask yourself why not? Go on, be different – make it your challenge to read one book this year and pass it on to other readers.


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4 thoughts on “Love and Equality #SameSexMarriage

  1. I love this post. It’s thoughtful and eloquently written. I’ve always been a supporter of marriage for everyone who wants it no matter their sexuality. The argument against same sex marriage has never made any sense to me. I have a cousin who came out a few years ago, and she’s the happiest she’s ever been. If she and her girlfriend would want to get married one day, I’d love for them to have the right to take that step.

    I’ve heard of same sex couples who were banned from their partner’s funeral and from making the arrangements, and there wasn’t anything they could do legally. I’ve heard of one partner not being permitted to ride with his/her injured partner in an ambulance to the hospital. I know this is morbid, but these are some of the things couples sometimes must face. What if one partner needed to make that horrible decision as to whether to pull the plug knowing what the partner’s wishes are but unable to legally make the decision? It’s a basic human right that’s being denied.

    The argument against same sex marriage that talks about the sanctity of marriage being upheld and whatnot is a load of B.S. What about celebrities? They marry and divorce all the time. They don’t seem to be too concerned with the sanctity of marriage. Maybe we should just ban celebrity marriage while we’re at it. *sarcasm* 😉

    Four years ago, my dad and I stopped speaking for a week because we got into an argument over the topic. I remember there was a hugely popular couple (Will and Noah) on the now defunct As the World Turns (I’m a proud soap fan, lol – RIP ATWT), and my dad made the comment that it seemed like every time he came over to visit, they were kissing. I loved them so damn much – they were so romantic! And the support Will’s parents gave him when he came out was emotional and overwhelming. They did a fantastic job with the story.

    At first my dad was lighthearted about it, just trying to get under my skin a bit because he knows exactly how I feel. I told him to please stop because I don’t agree with him and just let it be, but he egged me on a bit more until I snapped at him, which I never do honestly. That’s more my younger sister’s department. Anyway, he handed me my infant son and left because he knew I was really angry. It really hurt just to have that argument with him, so I can’t even imagine what it would be like to come out to non-supportive parents and family.

    I’m happy and lucky enough to have a husband who feels the same way I do about our daughter (11) and son (now 4) – if they are gay, we’re embracing them with open arms no matter what.

    Wonderful post!

    1. Wow, thanks for commenting and reading. Your story about your dad and you is sad, but not a one off I bet. It’s a shame that some people can be so narrow minded and closed off to these things.

      You make some great points! Some I had never even thought of. I’m shocked that you could be stopped from riding in the back of an ambulance! Your celeb comment made me laugh too 😉

      I think it is absolutely wonderful you would support your children if the need arises. You and your partner sound like brilliant parents for it and your children are lucky to have such open parents.

  2. I have two very good male friends who were married in the UK last year. I really don’t understand why people think they have the right to interfere in other people’s relationships (or bedrooms). Love is love regardless of gender and with so much hate in the world why would anyone try to stop love? It’s got me beat. It’s just another avenue of control by judgmental and narrow minded people who want to tell us who we can love and who we can’t.

    Anyway, it looks like I’ve had a bit of a rant above 😉 I’m all for same sex marriage and wish those who are so against it could put their energy into other word issues (like poverty).

    Brilliant post, Dan 😀

    1. It is great to see so many people for this union. Thanks for reading, Dianne. It’s just a shame there are a great many people who don’t see the world our way

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